Below is a quote from today's article in Chicago tribune by a successful black person: One man remembered feeling not just protected in his home, but also in his community, where neighbor women and men looked out for him. Many of us nodded because we shared a similar experience.
He talked about core values that his parents instilled about personal responsibility and hard work and respect for others that were reinforced by his community. About being required to say "Good morning," and "please and thank you."
"If someone saw you doing or saying something wrong, they called you on it or they grabbed you up in your collar," he said. "And your parents didn't argue or fight with them. Imagine trying to chastise somebody's child, nowadays." http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/columnists/ct-dinner-tyjuan-poindexter-dawn-turner-20150921-column.html
It is a huge disservice black leaders and liberals do to black people by constantly telling them about their rights but not too much about their responsibilities. The fact everyone knows is that you cannot end racism by just outlawing it. Many people are just racists and will be racists as long as they live. And for many it is a stereotype of blacks as violent, lazy and not very bright. And as we all know a stereotype is hard to change.
Rights and responsibilities. “An overlooked feature of the declaration is that it ends with duties and obligations upon an individual to their community. Sadly, we have become obsessed with rights, without any corresponding sense of duty, obligation or responsibility. I truly believe that with rights come responsibilities. There needs to be a balance, for our privileges can be no greater than our obligations.” http://www.smh.com.au/federal-politics/political-opinion/rights-must-be-balanced-with-responsibilities-20101209-18qq6.html#ixzz3ll5eDSmU
My wife told me about a conversation she had with a colleague, a black guy (I didn't call him “African-American” because I am not sure if his ancestors are from Africa). She told him that her parents taught her since childhood that Jews in order to succeed have to be better than the next person. And he totally objected to this notion. He has the same rights as anyone else, he stated. And that is true...in theory.
Many racial and religious groups were stigmatized, discriminated against...Irish, Jews, Italians, Orientals. “Native-born Americans criticized Irish immigrants for their poverty and manners, their supposed laziness and lack of discipline, their public drinking style, their catholic religion, and their capacity for criminality and collective violence. In both words and pictures, critics of the Irish measured character by their perceived physical appearance”. http://picturinghistory.gc.cuny.edu/item.php?item_id=211%00
Just like the Irish, be it Orientals or Mexicans, etc, they knew what they had to overcome. They were treated unfairly. It was harder for them to find jobs but they persevered and began to do just fine.
Yes, we have to fight for equal rights. But we all have to prove something. Prove with our lives, with our actions, with our hard work. Prove that we are a hard-working, successful group.
“It takes many good deeds to build a good reputation, and only one bad one to lose it.” Benjamin Franklin
Who is more successful: a Mexican-American whose parents immigrated to the U.S. with less than an elementary school education, and who now works as a dental hygienist? Or a Chinese-American whose parents immigrated to the U.S. and earned Ph.D. degrees, and who now practices as a doctor?
Amy Chua (AKA “Tiger Mom”) and her husband Jed Rubenfeld, author of the new book The Triple Package, claim it’s the latter. They argue that certain American groups (including Chinese, Jews, Cubans, and Nigerians) are more successful and have risen further than others because they share certain cultural traits. Chua and Rubenfeld bolster their argument by comparing these groups’ median household income, test scores, educational attainment, and occupational status to those of the rest of the country. http://www.zocalopublicsquare.org/2014/02/24/are-mexicans-the-most-successful-immigrant-group-in-the-u-s/ideas/nexus/
More about “white privilege” and work ethics.
A new paper from a University of Chicago PhD candidate, Alison Rauh, finds that black immigrants tend to be more successful than black Americans. They out-earn black natives (after accounting for age) and are more likely to be employed. This is not surprising; white immigrant groups outperform their native cohort too. But what’s most intriguing is how their children fare. The children of black immigrants are more likely to go to and complete college than native blacks (and whites) and are less likely to drop out of high school. http://qz.com/198512/america-still-is-the-land-of-opportunities-for-black-immigrants-but-not-their-kids/
Below is a quote by a “white privileged” guy:
Years ago, some feminist on the internet told me I was "Privileged."
"THE FUCK!?!?" I said. I came from the kind of Poor that people don't want to believe still exists in this country. Have you ever spent a frigid northern Illinois winter without heat or running water? I have. At twelve years old, were you making ramen noodles in a coffee maker with water you fetched from a public bathroom? I was. Have you ever lived in a camper year round and used a random relative's apartment as your mailing address? We did. Did you attend so many different elementary schools that you can only remember a quarter of their names? Welcome to my childhood.
So when that feminist told me I had "white privilege," I told her that my white skin didn't do shit to prevent me from experiencing poverty. http://occupywallstreet.net/story/explaining-white-privilege-broke-white-person
Now about my own experience.
I did not experience “white skin privilege”...not in my old country, the Soviet Union, where I was a Jew first and a citizen second. I mean second-rate citizen. We the Jews knew that we had to be better than non Jews in order to get into college or to find a job. Many colleges and jobs were off limits to Jews no matter how good you were.
I didn't know anything about the “privilege” when we came to America with a one year old child and $400. With my broken English and no US experience I did not feel “privileged”.
My wife and I knew that we would have to work hard and study the language in order to make a decent living for ourselves and our children. At that time we were helped by a Jewish organization and were expected to find a job within 3 months. And then we were expected to pay back the money given to us. And we did.
We did not know anything about any social programs so it never crossed our minds to apply for any kind of help from the Government.
Is there “white privilege”? Yes. Racism is one of the reasons. High crime rate among blacks is another reason. Is that fair? No it is not. A good friend of ours adopted two black kids. These kids are adults now. I know them. Great human beings. Decent and hard working. And they get stopped by local police for just walking in the neighborhood. Racial profiling? Yes. But let's get real. It will continue as long as the high crime rate remains among the black population.
The main problem of our country is the erosion of the middle class. Not just white or black. The backbone of our society is crumbling. So where is this so-called “white privilege” for most Americans?
There is privilege. For those born with a silver spoon in their mouth. Regardless of race or nationality.
In my opinion well-meaning people, by evoking “white privilege”, provide many blacks with an excuse to blame all their problems on discrimination. Some are practicing “professional victim-hood” and are spending most of their efforts blaming everyone else for their problems.
“Vester Flanagan, the gunman who killed a reporter and a cameraman on TV Wednesday, was a "professional victim" during his time at the station before being fired in 2013. Flanagan interpreted efforts by the station to improve his performance and persuade him to work more cooperatively with colleagues as discrimination” http://www.msn.com/en-us/news/trending/tt-BBmbJuG?q=TV%20shootings&form=PTTWFD
What can we as a society do to help people (of any race) to break the cycle of poverty?
One thing that absolutely needs to be done is to provide a good quality education for those who want it.
The lottery. There are many families who realize that the only way to break the cycle of poverty is a good education for their kids. But there are no good schools in poor neighborhoods. But in order to get enrolled, one has to play the lottery. http://www.hulu.com/watch/215007
It is a shame that the richest country in the world cannot provide good schools for its children who want to learn and to get a good education. This is the only way to eventually get rid of ghettos.
We as a country have to help those who want help.
And as a country of laws we cannot use excuses nor condone breaking the law, regardless of class, race or nationality.