Tiger Mom

I’m sure that all parents, to some degree, sympathise with this attitude. What mother doesn’t bask in the glow of a child’s success? But there has to be more to life than this, especially for the child, because sooner or later, he or she can’t be “number one

Here are some opinions about parenting.

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I will publish my thoughts shortly.
Mariette Ulrich | 20 Jan 2011
Tiger Mother parenting ignores dignity and heart of the child.
I’m sure that all parents, to some degree, sympathise with this attitude. What mother doesn’t bask in the glow of a child’s success? But there has to be more to life than this, especially for the child, because sooner or later, he or she can’t be “number one.” Fostering an unyielding (and unrealistic) attitude of “failure is not an option” is no way to prepare a child for setbacks in life. If the adventure of parenting is in any way an ego trip for the parent, it’s often the child who ends up falling under the bus.
“I see (and concur with) Ms. Chua’s point about some Western parents being overly concerned about damaging their children’s fragile psyches, to the point where they offer no guidance or correction whatever. Yet at the same time, children have souls, unique personalities, and human dignity. They are not, and should not be expected to perform as, machines. The goal of education is surely not to produce success-at-any-cost “winners”, but to expand the mind, heart, and soul of a human being.
The bigger consequence is that I find I’m socially awkward and simply do not fit into most people’s perceptions of family. Living in the western world people are used to family dinners and time-outs or groundings not being called names and being on the other end of a belt lashing. My self-esteem is on a constant roller-coaster ride and my confidence is arguably below average.”
Truble wit parenting
Parenting?

I don’t know if Amy’s daughters will eventually rise up against her but it may just happen that one day they get as little freedom and realize the emotional prison their mother had them caged into. Nevertheless, this is how it is for Chinese families and us children of this system find it acceptable when we’re younger because it’s what we’ve come to know as a child. It’s not until we become older and see other things that e realize how flawed the system we grew up really is.

I hope for Amy’s sake that her kids don’t turn out like me and my father but it wouldn’t surprise me if their relationship begins strain at some point.
Are there any parenting lessons to be learned from tiger mother Amy Chua?
There are certainly elements in what she is espousing that have scientific evidence that they constitute good parenting. Kids need limits and structure, and it’s good for parents to have high expectations for them—and if you want your kids to do well in school, you want to do things like getting involved in their schooling, having expectations of success and praising them when they do well.
On the other hand, the downside to what she is advocating, if I understand her correctly, is that if parenting becomes too authoritarian—and by that I mean overly restrictive, overly punitive, squelching any attempt by the child at independence or autonomy—those parenting practices have been shown to be related to elevated anxiety, depression and psychosomatic problems. Kids raised in those circumstances are less self-assured and socially poised, and more compliant.
In other words, on the one hand Amy states that children are fully capable, while on the other hand she controls them to such an extent that one might question whether she truly believes in them. How can we believe a child is “great” on one level, then treat them as if they are incapable of wisdom in practice? The approach screams of parental insecurity, not security.
A parent who is secure in themselves has no fear of their child’s imperfections and mistakes, but trusts that children are innately capable of finding themselves. Indeed, the struggle to identify their authentic voice is far more important than the perfect regurgitation of someone else’s dream of who they are.
Just a child
Just a child

Any extreme is bad. Overly Nice or Overly Strict, You Created the Monster

There exists in the cosmos a great measuring scale that balances out good parents with good children. If the parents stray either way from too light parenting to too strict parenting, the result at the other end of the scale is the same, a rebellious monster the rest of us will eventually have to deal with.

The reasons of current turmoil in the world.

Who we are and what we do. Are you happy?

daily grind
Are you happy?

To my fellow Americans and to the rest members of our “advanced” civilization

We drive our cars to work. We work a lot doing important things, like designing new line of clothing or new cereal. Our industries are furiously producing more stuff that is absolutely needed to produce even more stuff. We are flying all over the planet to important meetings, deciding how to make more stuff.
We are busy in this life, very busy.
Doing what?
Trying to accomplish what?
Can we pause for a moment, and try to feel what we really want?
Are we happy?
We work to “make a living”. What living?
Are we happy?
Do we live to work? Why do most of us separate life and work? What is “working”? Is working – life? Is that what life meant to be?
Are we happy?
Our beautiful planet. Our only home. We are busy destroying it. Why?
Will we ever learn to live? To live and let live?
We enjoy our only home, the nature 2 -4 weeks a year. So we work 50 weeks on destroying our planet and for 2 weeks are enjoying what we did not destroy yet.
Are we happy?

our way of life
Breathe!

I saw the movie Avatar. What a great fantasy! A non-technological civilization, intelligent creatures that live in harmony with nature. No, they are nature, inseparable from the planet, part of the living planet.

Are they happy?
Do we know more about life then they do?
I wonder what would happen to American Indians, to their civilization, if we would not destroy them and their world.
What would happen to African civilization if Europeans never invaded?
Why are we so bent on destruction?
Why are we so sure that our way of life is the only way of life?
How are we learning about the world around us?
We came from animals, we are on the top of the food chain. We are superior to any other creature on this planet. Right? The planet is ours to destroy!
So why don’t we feel the coming tsunami or the earth quake like animals do?
A good part of our knowledge, of out technology is applied toward the better way to kill each other. Does that seems natural?
Are we happy?
I do not have all the answers, I just have questions. May be it is a good start.

To our President

There can be no compromise allowing tax cuts for the rich to continue while the rest of the country sacrifices.
There can be no compromise with big banks conducting business as usual after almost destroying our economy.

Traits of a leader.
Leadership

Mr. President.

I voted for you.
There was a special energy then. The hopes were high.
I realize that the situation you inherited was grave and nothing could be fixed overnight.
But there was hope.
Hope made you the President.
Hope that you would end the devastating wars.
Hope that you would stand by your principals
Hope that you would be less of a politician and more of a leader,
Hope that you would fight for what you had told us you believed in.
Hope that you would understand that when the future of our country was at stake there could be no compromise.
Hope accomplishes great things, Mr. President.
We were with you Mr. President; ready to support you in that good fight.
We did not elect you to be just another politician.
We elected a Leader.
There are limits to compromise Mr. President.
There can be no compromise with people without morals; whose only goal is unlimited power.
There can be no compromise when what you believe in is at stake.
Great things are accomplished against all odds Mr. President.
There can be no compromise when the results are half measures that make things worse, such as  healthcare reform, where the insurance companies gained even more power because you abandoned the public option.
There can be no compromise allowing tax cuts for the rich to continue while the rest of the country sacrifices.
There can be no compromise with big banks conducting business as usual after almost destroying our economy.
Hope, Mr. President is a powerful force.
Do not compromise your principles.
Do not let hope abandon you.
Because Mr President when we lose hope you lose votes.
And one of these votes is mine.